Frank Meets the Family
The world, I was already learning, is much bigger than you expect when you first open your eyes to it.
I hadn’t been around very long when John decided it was time. Time for a road trip. Time for the real thing — the moment I’d go from being his Frank to being the family’s Frank. Michigan, he said. There were people there who needed to meet me, and I think, if I’m being honest, I needed to meet them too.
I wasn’t entirely sure what to expect. The word “family” was still new to me. I understood it the way you understand something important before you’ve fully felt it — the way you know the sun is warm before you’ve actually stood in it.
They opened the door like I was exactly what they’d been waiting for.
I’ve thought about that moment a lot since. John’s daughter and son-in-law didn’t just let me in — they welcomed me in. There’s a difference. One is politeness. The other is something you feel all the way through your stripes.
And then there were the girls.
Oh, the girls.
I don’t know how to explain what it’s like to be seen through a child’s eyes for the first time. It’s like being in a spotlight that only means well. They weren’t uncertain about me the way adults sometimes are — a little careful, a little measured, working out whether something is worth their enthusiasm. The girls just knew. Arms out, hearts open, and suddenly I was in the middle of something so warm I forgot I was brand new to the world.
There were hugs. There were smiles. There was a kind of happiness in that room that I don’t have the vocabulary to fully describe yet — and I’ve been working on my vocabulary.
And then there was Tanner.
Tanner is a dog. I want to be careful about how I describe what happened between us, because I don’t want to misrepresent the situation. The facts are these: Tanner noticed me, assessed me, and came to a series of conclusions about me. I could tell because he was very expressive about the whole process.
I don’t think Tanner had ever seen a zebra before. To be fair, I hadn’t spent much time around dogs either, so we were both operating without a script.
He sniffed me thoroughly. He looked at me sideways. He looked at me the other way. He sat down and appeared to think deeply about what he was looking at. John was on the couch, and at a certain point the three of us ended up there together — John’s arms around both of us — which I think Tanner accepted as a kind of official declaration. Not that he necessarily agreed with the situation, mind you. But he was willing to acknowledge it.
The caption says he had opinions about me and mostly kept them to himself. That’s accurate. I respected that. Good fences, good neighbors, all that.
By the end of the visit, though, I’d like to think we understood each other. We were both a little fuzzy. We both loved this family. We were both going to be around for a while.
Cousins, then. That works for me.
Michigan in April was cold the way Michigan in April always is — stubbornly, cheerfully, as if it hadn’t quite gotten the memo about spring. But inside that house it was nothing but warm.
I came home from that trip knowing something I hadn’t known before I left: family isn’t just the people who made you. It’s the people who hold you like you already belong — the little ones who reach for you like you’re already theirs, and yes, even the dogs who size you up seriously before deciding you can stay.
I’m a zebra. I’m new to the world. But I’m starting to understand what it means to be home.